Nikki Tollenaar

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CounsellingAncestral Memory TherapyToronto

About Nikki

I enjoy working with creative, neurodivergent, queer, and gender-diverse folks who are navigating identity, relationships, and the pressures of living outside of normative expectations and lifestyles. Many of the people I support are self-reflective and growth-oriented, yet still find themselves feeling stuck or repeating familiar patterns. I’m especially drawn to working with those who long for deep connection but sometimes find themselves slipping into caretaking roles or relying on humor, distraction, intellectualization, and other well-earned strategies for navigating discomfort and staying safe. Often, these patterns reflect adaptations to attachment wounds and formative relational experiences such as parentification, emotional neglect, or chronic shame. Our work often centers on creating more space for authenticity, connection, and belonging - in relationships, community, and within the wider webs of care that sustain us. I come to this work shaped by nearly a decade of frontline community mental health and social service experience, including crisis intervention, harm reduction, and community health.This background has grounded me in a trauma-informed, intersectional, and relational approach, and in a deep respect for the ways people adapt in order to survive difficult environments and experience. I’m also someone who lives within the neurodivergent experience myself, which informs both my clinical curiosity and my appreciation for the complexity, intensity, and creativity of our inner worlds. Therapy with me is collaborative, relational, and grounded in curiosity. I offer a space to understand patterns, protectors, and survival strategies with more clarity and compassion. My work draws from somatic therapy, attachment theory, parts work, and mindfulness, and may include exploring how experiences show up in the body, how different parts of self relate to one another, and how long-standing patterns can begin to shift. I aim to offer a space where humor, grief, stuckness, and insight can all exist at once, and where new possibilities for relating to yourself, others, and the world can emerge.

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